Can our relationship be fixed?
Couples therapy for when trust is broken by an affair
I was betrayed…
I am losing my mind, actually going crazy. Thoughts about the affair and the lies won't stop. I can't concentrate on anything.
I feel like a stupid, worthless chump. I NEVER should have trusted.
I can't imagine ever trusting this person again but I also really love them and that makes me feel like an idiot and a fool.
Do I know my partner at all? Do I know myself? How could I have missed the signs/been so wrong?
Does my partner even love me? How could they do this to me?
Am I worthy to be loved by anyone?
I betrayed my partner…
I f****d up, I admit it, so why can't they see I'm really sorry?
I wish all this would go away
I feel like my partner is punishing me with their anger and their questions, why can't they see that I'm sorry already?
I want to stay together but not if I'm going to be in the doghouse for the rest of my life
I have no idea how to fix this and I hate feeling so powerless
My partner needs to see their part in this mess, I had good reasons to do what I did
Am I a bad person?
After an affair comes out it can feel like there are only two options
Suck it up and stay together
Or have some self-respect and get a divorce already
If you haven’t been through it yourself, the options seem clear and simple.
But it rarely is.
People on the outside don’t understand the firestorm of emotions, the crippling ambivalence, the weighing of options that keeps you up at night, the intrusive thoughts about what happened, about being alone, about what this all means, the dread about staying together and the dread about separating.
There is a third option: Rebuild trust and go deeper, together.
