Are we a fit?

For us to work together, the following MUST be true:

  • -You must be able to pay for extended sessions. In order to do excellent work I offer longer sessions than the 45 minutes that insurance will pay for.
    Because I want to do my best to help your marriage, the following are required:

    -2 hour initial session ($190 out of pocket)

    -90 minute follow-up session ($115 out of pocket)

    -60 or 90 minute sessions after this ($40 or $115 out of pocket)

  • -You want a highly directive style of couples therapy. I will ask you challenging questions, give you direct suggestions, and put you in structured activities with each other to practice new skills.

  • -There is no current threat of physical violence in your relationship. If you have a history of violence between you but it is in the past that is okay.

  • -You are available between the hours of 12 and 9:30pm on weekdays.

  • -You are able to pay the fee regularly. I do not allow couples to carry a balance of over $100.

  • -You either are sure you want to save your marriage OR want to find out if your marriage is worth saving


We might NOT be a good fit if

  • -You need weekend appointments. I tried offering these and I had a 75% cancellation rate, so I stopped.

  • -You want to use insurance and extended sessions are not in the budget. If this is the case, check out my referrals page for colleagues who take insurance and offer the shorter sessions that insurance will pay for.

  • -You are trapped in your relationship for financial reasons, or because you fear litigation or custody battles if you try to leave. If this is the case I recommend seeking individual support.

  • -You want me to change your partner. Here’s the bad news: I can’t. What I can do is help you two look at reality and make good decisions for your family.

  • -You are certain you want to break up. If this is true look at my referrals page for colleagues who can help with this.

  • -You don’t want to do any work on your relationship in between sessions.

  • -You are too busy right now with kids, work, health, or other responsibilities to come at least weekly or biweekly for 90 minutes to sessions. If things are really tense you might need weekly at first, and if the therapy is at too low of a dose it won’t help.

We could be a particularly good fit if you:

  • Enjoy creative exercises and activities where you try out new ways of being with each other. Bonus points if you love role play. Or at least consider yourself warned…

  • Have a background in meditation and/or mindfulness

  • See relationships as a journey of growth rather than a destination

  • Like reading/audiobooks. I will ask you to read one chapter a week of Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin in between sessions over the course of therapy to help you progress faster)